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Friday, August 24, 2012

A "Froot Loop" in a bowl of Cheerios


Last week, I received a phone call from an attorney and he said, “Hi Nancy! A friend of mine told me to look you up; and so I did… I have to tell you: You’re a mix between ‘Jennifer Lopez and Angelina Jolie with a Playboy feel’! How do I hang out with you?!?!”…  Hahahaha! He totally made my day, of course! Thank you! ;-)

You see, I find it super interesting that he described me with three names that are iconic in the entertainment business: “Jennifer Lopez”, “Angelina Jolie” and “Playboy”. It’s only obvious that I’m an entertainer; you are reading my blog right now. Why? Because either you heard about me just recently; or, you’re one of my faithful followers. You’ve laughed with me or about me in my adventures in the bail bond industry; or you have felt my heartache and disappointment in a couple of very emotional blogs that I’ve written. Either way, you’ve been and continue to be entertained. ;-)

When I was 5 years old, my parents took me to watch a theatrical play at a local school during Guatemala’s Independence Celebration week. I don’t really remember what the school play was about, but I do remember that I loved it so much and that I wished I was one of the characters on stage performing on that day too.  I carried fond memories of that school play for a couple of years, and it wasn’t until I was 7 years old, I had an opportunity to audition for my very first school play.

I went to the auditions after school, and I was determined to get a part in the play! All the kids who auditioned with me were elementary school age ranging from 7 to 12 years old. Some kids at the auditions had performed previous years; and there were also kids like me, that had no experience. I was so determined to have a great audition. I told myself, “I want to be on stage! Come on Nancy! Bring it on! You’re not shy!” (In Spanish of course, because I didn’t speak English at the time) Lol :-P

My audition went well and the teachers in charge seem pleased with my performance. My mom was waiting for me outside the classroom and I couldn’t wait to come back to school the following day to check the bulletin board and see if my name was posted there. I don’t think I slept at all on that night, I was so excited!

The following morning when I got to school, I ran to the principal’s office. I checked the bulletin board and I couldn’t stop jumping up and down because of how happy I felt when I saw my name on the list next to “leading role”. Woohoo!!! I was so proud of myself! ;-)

It wasn’t long after it was announced that I was the lead girl of the play, that other girls started being really mean to me. It was obvious that they were jealous. I remember I got pushed around a lot in the girl’s bathroom or in the hallways. My school was very small and all the kids knew each other. I got dirty looks and I’m sure there was a lot of gossiping going around about me, but I just didn’t care! The fact that I was being bullied at school motivated me even more! My mission was to show those other kids that I had what it took to be the star of the play!

We practiced every day after school, and one of my lines required me to cry. The teacher told me what she wanted me to do and so I did it, but I wasn’t really crying. It was a totally fake cry!

The day finally came! It was Showtime and I was ready! My grandmother did my hair on that day; and, as I saw myself in front of the mirror it just occurred to me, “Hmmm… I wonder if I could cry for real on stage today? I don’t want to do the little fake crying thing my teacher told me to do.”  My mind was racing with different thoughts and ideas, “How do I do it? How can I cry on the stage?”

There weren’t many things to do in Guatemala at the time, so my school play was something that the locals look forward to every year. My parents and I and the rest of my family arrived at the community center where most of the people in town were already seated. It was a full house! My dad walked with me backstage to meet with my teacher and kiss me goodbye.

The play started and I was so happy because I remembered all my lines. It was the first time I was performing in front of so many people. But, I wasn’t nervous, in fact, I was enjoying every moment of it! Finally, the time came where I was supposed to be fake crying. I remember I focused myself on the sadness of the moment. I began to speak, when all of the sudden I felt my tears coming down my face! My teacher was sitting at the side of the stage and I literality saw when her jaw dropped! She was completely shocked! I wasn’t pretending to be crying! I was crying for real!

From the stage, I was only able to see the people sitting in the first row, but the look of sadness on their faces was priceless! I told myself, “Mission accomplished!” ;-) The play had a happy ending and once it was over, all the kids’ congregated backstage until our parents showed up. All of the sudden, I saw my teacher running towards me and she gave me a big hug! “I’m so proud of you” she said. “How did you do it? How did you cry on stage? You were awesome!” Before I could answer, my dad showed up and he was smiling. Now, both my dad and my teacher began talking about how great I did during my performance.

When the other parents came backstage to pick up their kids, they stopped by to shake my dad’s hand congratulating him for my performance. Many others told me congratulations. It was a very awesome experience for me!  By the time I got back to school the following Monday; all the girls who had been mean to me before, were now my friends.  I never saw another kid give me a dirty look, or try to bully me around. It was over! You see, at seven years old, I showed the other kids at my school that I have “courage”! I was not going to be intimidated by them bullying me. I was determined to keep going and accomplished what I set myself up to do, regardless of what others thought of me!

After my first theatrical performance, I got hooked! I auditioned every single year for the school play and I always got the lead role, all the way until I was 12. I participated in all kinds of dance choreographies; I memorized and recited poems (which I hate by the way) but, I wanted to compete and win! I’m very competitive!

At 14, I wrote my very first script play. The school that I attended at the time had a yearly competition between students for creative writing. I wrote my script in one afternoon and I submitted it. About a week later, I was notified that my script had been chosen by the school officials to be performed at a national competition where my school was going to participate together with other schools. Oh man! At the time, I had to cast the kids in the play, direct the play and really make my school look good! I remember I separated all the kids in three groups, the leading kids, the extras or special appearances kids, and the kids who would help with the effects, lighting and music and stuff!  

I loved the challenge from the start! The competition between all the schools was going to be held at the national theater, in downtown Guatemala. That meant that it was going to be a huge event!  On the day of the competition and after being at the theater for many hours; the judges finally picked the top three school plays. I was super happy when they called the name of my school and I had to go on stage to represent our play. They gave out a small trophy for the second runner up school. We were only two kids now standing in the middle of the stage. My body felt numb when I heard the name of my school, indicating that we were the overall winners from a script that I wrote and directed! ;-)

When I came to live to the US, I tried out for my high school Drill Team and I made it. I danced my butt off my senior year during the Football season and state competitions! Lol!!! Definitely one of the best years of my life! Once I got married and my kids started school, I got really involved in the PTA (Parents, Teachers Association) and I’m sure by now, you wouldn’t be surprised to find out that I was in charge of my kids school “Talent Show” EVERY SINGLE YEAR! Lol! That lasted until I got divorced in 2008, because I then had to get a “paying” job! I had a job at the PTA; but, I wasn’t getting paid with money. Instead, I was getting paid by creating lasting memories for all those little kids who participated in my shows.

My daughter Rio came back from school one day last year, and she told me something that her Social Studies teacher had told her during school. She said, “Mr. Walker told our class today, that if you want to get ahead in life. You have to become a ‘Froot Loop’ in a bowl of Cheerios.” WOW!!! What a revelation! It made all the sense in the world to me!

What can I do to be the “Froot Loop” in a bowl of “many other bail bondsmen?” My creative mind went to work, overtime, after I asked myself that question! First, I had to come up with a catchy name because people couldn’t pronounce my last name. I thought about many name combinations; but, nothing resonated with me and who I am. Weeks passed by and I was getting frustrated; when a friend of mine, who I hadn’t seen in a long time found me on Facebook and sent me a message saying, “Hey Super Bond Girl!” ;-)

I’m now, a register trademark! I’m also a writer, a model, a comedian, an actress, an entrepreneur, a director, a producer, a fashion designer; and on top of that, I can bail you out of jail! (I wish I was singer too, but I can’t carry a tune, not even to save own my life! LOL) At this point, where is my competition? I HAVE NO MORE COMPETITION!!! I have become the “Froot Loop” in a bowl of Cheerios.

The late Steve Jobs said, “Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower.” I think you’ll agree with me that Steve Jobs was pretty darn smart!  I’ve never been a follower! So, “Innovation” is the name of my game! I have been criticized and called all kinds of insults to my face or behind my back by my competition because I don’t conduct my business as “they” do!


In the book, The Alchemist, Paulo Coelho wrote, “If someone isn't what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.” Why do I have haters in the Bail Bond business? Because I’m NOT doing what “they” want me to do!

On May 15, 2009, Arnold Schwarzenegger gave a commencement speech at USC titled, “Six Rules on How to become Successful” the rules are as follows:

1. Trust yourself
2. Break some rules
3. Don't be afraid to fail
4. Ignore the naysayers
5. Work like hell
6. Give something back

I have based my life on those same rules, with emphasis on rule #2! The other rules come natural to me! On breaking the rules Arnold Schwarzenegger said, “We have so many rules in life about everything. I say break the rules. Not the law, but break the rules. My wife has a t-shirt that says, 'Well-behaved women rarely make history.' Well, you know, I don't want to burst her bubble, but the same is true with men...

It is impossible to be a maverick or a true original if you're too well behaved and don't want to break the rules. You have to think outside the box. That's what I believe. After all, what is the point of being on this earth if all you want to do is be liked by everyone and avoid trouble?”… You see, I paid attention to the “Terminator”, and I’m currently having fun breaking the rules! ;-)

None of the things that I do are illegal (Although, I know some local cops wish that I did! LOL) I’m not hurting anyone else; but, I know I’m pissing some of my peers off! I'd rather regret the things I've done, than regret the things I didn’t do! ;-)

This is just the beginning! I’m not going to stop here! I currently have enough material to write up to three books. At this point, there are no limits to my imagination and the things that I will do. I came to the USA when I was 16 years old with absolutely nothing! I didn’t even speak English! Yet, I write my blogs in English (even though English is my second language). Why? Because I live in the greatest country in the world; and the national language here is English! I adapted to my country, not the other way around!


Little by little, I’m accomplishing all my dreams and my goals! I’m setting a great example for my children, and hopefully I can also motivate you to lose the fear and go for your dreams, whatever they might be! After all, where did I come from? I came from a little third world country in Central America named Guatemala. If I can do it, what’s stopping you from accomplishing your dreams?!

I’m going to end this blog with the lyrics of one of my favorite songs of all time!

“Twenty million other ‘white rappers’ emerge (‘bail agents’ in my case)
But no matter how many fish in the sea
It will be so empty without me.” –Eminem- Without Me ;-)



Nancy Tiscareno - Super Bond Girl


Monday, August 6, 2012

ONLINE DATING WARNING! (Cyber Crime)


In early July 2012, I received an email from a gentleman named David, informing me that he had come across my website in a very peculiar way…through an online dating site.


David proceeded to tell me that he has a profile on a dating site named Mingle2.com and that a woman had contacted him. After seeing her profile pictures he said he was definitely interested. So he began to exchange emails with her. The woman had told him that her name was Alice Ryan.


Then he noticed that in one of the woman’s pictures, she was wearing a t-shirt that read: www.superbondgirl.com . Curious, David proceeded to check out the site where David was surprised to find out that the woman in the pictures was not Alice, but actually me. He realized then, that he was in the middle of an internet dating scam.


David emailed me and gave me all the information that I needed to get in contact with the people at Mingle2.com and let them know about the fraudulent activity, so they could correct it. I have to say that at the time, I was beyond upset that someone was using my images to lure vulnerable men who are looking for a mate, just to take advantage of them! I think that’s disgusting and disturbing!


Not too long ago, I watched an episode on 20/20 (one of my favorite shows of all time), where they were explaining how many people in the US had been scammed of thousands of dollars via dating sites by individuals in other countries using fraudulent accounts. I thought to myself, “How sad is that? These people were looking for love, just to find out thousands of dollars later, that they have been had”. I never imagined, even in my strangest dreams, that I would be a victim of identity fraud and be caught up in this online dating mess! 


I contacted Mingle2.com and they replied to my email right away. They stated that they had located the fraudulent account and deactivated it. They informed me that they were able to track the Alice Ryan account all the way to West Africa. Wow! West Africa?!?!?! Uuugghh! I really wanted to meet Alice Ryan; just so I could kick her ass! But, I’m not going to West Africa to meet with anyone! After getting a response from Mingle2.com, I was at peace and I hoped that the issue with my photos being used in online dating scams was over.



The following week, I received a message via Facebook from one of my “friends” and he asked me, “Nancy, I just saw you on Ashley Madison’s page, is that true?” I was like, “What the hell is Ashley Madison?” I then Googled Ashley Madison…and oh my goodness!!! Ashley Madison is a dating site that encourages people to cheat on their spouses! I didn’t know that! How gross?!?!?! I asked my friend (since he’s a member) to tell me the profile’s name with my photo, and I wasn’t that shocked when he told me, “Alice Ryan”.


But this situation was different than the first, and I was devastated! Especially since it was all out of my hands and I had no control over it! I don’t want any association with any site that encourages “affairs”. Having an affair is just a way to hurt a third person, which is usually the unsuspecting husband or wife. If you’re not happy in your marriage and you think you can find a better person out there or if it’s just a thrill for you, then don’t stay married! Don’t make the person that you have promised to love and honor for the rest of your life SUFFER!!!!

I know what it feels to be in a marriage where you can’t trust your spouse. Why? Because I lived it!!! It’s a horrible feeling knowing that your husband is running to the kitchen to answer a 3AM phone call on his cell phone when it his day off! Only to have him come back to bed just to tell you the lame excuse that “his” partner had forgotten that he wasn’t working on that day. Really? If they work together, how is the partner going to forget?!


In 2004, I was able to track down a woman that my husband at the time was “talking to”. I then confronted Javier about her and he assured me that “nothing” had gone on between them and that “they only talked”. However, I happened to find out just recently this year that Mr. Javier not only cheated on me with her, but he also took pictures of the sexual acts with this woman! And it was my kids that told me, because they came across these pictures!!! My youngest daughter Sabrina was crying when she told me how disturbing it was for her to see her Dad in sexually explicit photos! How awful for my kids to see that! And what an asshole Javier is!


You see, this can be how other people get hurt by your actions when you start affairs and sleep around when you’re still married…when you commit adultery! Now, if you’re not committed to anyone, you can do whatever you want, but if you’re married and planning on having an affair or actually having one; please have the “courage” to end the marriage first. That way, you can go on with your life and have all the fun you want without hurting other people!


Anyway, I got in contact with “Ashley Madison”. I sent them an email reporting the fraudulent account under Alice Ryan and explaining my whole situation. They responded a day later, but they were not as nice as the people from Mingle2.com.  While Ashley Madison removed my picture, they only warned the account holder not to do that type of thing again. They also told me that they can’t keep track of the accounts using other people’s pictures because they have so many members. They have so many members on a dating site that encourages affairs? That’s so sad!


At this point, I think it’s safe to assume that there are many other “dating” sites with fraudulent accounts using my pictures. So, I figured I warned you about this problem through my blog. I’m also including a YouTube video that I made specifically in response to this mess. Additionally, I’m attaching the 20/20 episode where they conducted an investigation on stolen identities on dating sites. This whole issue is so disturbing to me, but it gave me material to write another blog. So, that’s cool!


For those of you who are looking for love on dating sites, I really hope you find what you’re looking for! Just be very careful of those you talk to, especially if the person that you’re interested in is asking you to wire money to her/his bank account and you haven’t physically met her/him yet. That should be a red flag!


Now just to clarify, I’m not currently on any dating site, but I’m not going to deny that I’ve tried them a couple of times in the past. Online dating it’s definitely not for me. I much rather leave such a special encounter to chance and let destiny take its course.  You see, I know that when the time is right; the right man will come and be part of my life.  



Nancy Tiscareno - Super Bond Girl
www.SuperBondGirl.com